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Relationships and loneliness

Open Relationship Loneliness

Open relationships are often imagined to solve the loneliness problem — more connection, more people. In practice, they require significantly more emotional work, more communication, and more capacity to sit with difficult feelings like jealousy, insecurity, and unmet needs. The loneliness that arises within or around open relationships is real, and it is complicated by the assumption that you must be fine with everything if you agreed to the arrangement.

The complexity that cannot always be spoken

Most friends are not equipped to be a good sounding board for open relationship dynamics. Monogamous friends may be judgmental or skeptical. Partners may be too close to the situation. Online communities can be helpful but are no substitute for real conversation. The result is often carrying complexity alone — the jealousy you are not supposed to feel, the unmet need you are not sure how to name, the uncertainty about whether this structure is working.

There is also a particular loneliness in the evenings or moments when a partner is with someone else — a kind of solitude that is not exactly chosen and is not exactly imposed, and that does not fit neatly into the scripts for handling being alone.

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